Pronouns
I just returned from a little get together with a bunch of old friends. We had gotten together to watch the annual University of Kentucky versus University of Louisville basketball game. I was, as usual with this crew, the only Kentucky fan and despite playing their best game of the year, my beloved Cats came up 3 points short. Everyone of them has been nothing but supportive of my transition and I probably couldn't have done this without their help. I love them to death and fell very blessed to count them among my friends. I enjoy being with them and I unfortunately don't get to spend nearly enough them. But here's the rub, after five years, some of them still don't get the pronouns right and that hurts. I know they don't mean to and I'm certainly not mad but it does make me feel pretty much like a failure.
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Hey, love the new look! I'd love to change mine again, but then I always fuss too much and decide against it. I've changed it so much already! SIGH
I was able to drag Missi out to a get-together with a colleague of mine, and despite much protest, she was actually glad she went. It's hard to take a hermit out of her domain.
Yeah, I kind of like the new look too. I'm still kind of playing around with things so we'll see what happens.
"after five years, some of them still don't get the pronouns right and that hurts. I know they don't mean to..."
i don't buy that they don't mean it. now perhaps i'm being harsh, and perhaps they don't intend to hurt you, but i think after 5 years, if they haven't made the effort to respect you, then i can say they'd no longer be my friends.
if they can't understand that it is totally disrespectful, then those are people with whom i could never be friends. it would be like calling a female friend who got married 5 years ago by her maiden name. it's just disrespectful.
and i like the new look too :)
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